How to Stop Seeking Approval and Start Being Yourself

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How to Stop Seeking Approval and Start Being Yourself

From a young age, we’re conditioned to seek approval. Whether it’s from our parents, teachers, peers, or later, our colleagues and society at large, the desire to be liked and accepted is deeply ingrained. This is natural; humans are social creatures who thrive on connection and community.

However, when the quest for approval begins to overshadow our true desires, values, and identity, it can lead to a life that feels inauthentic and constrained. Living unapologetically means shedding this need for external validation and embracing who you are at your core.

Daily Practice to Stop Seeking Approval

  • Mindfulness: Practice being present in the moment. This can help reduce anxiety about others’ opinions and keep you grounded in your own values and desires.
    Positive Affirmations: Use affirmations to reinforce your self-worth. Phrases like “I am enough” and “I trust myself” can shift your mindset over time.
  • Creative Expression: Engage in activities that allow you to express yourself freely, such as writing, painting, dancing, or any other hobby that brings you joy.
  • Digital Detox: Limit your exposure to social media, which often fuels comparison and the need for approval. Focus on real-world interactions and experiences.

Overcoming Common Challenges
Living unapologetically isn’t always easy. You might face resistance from those who are used to the old, approval-seeking you. Here’s how to handle common challenges:

  • Criticism: Understand that not everyone will agree with your choices, and that’s okay. Criticism often says more about the critic than about you.
  • Fear of Rejection: Rejection is a part of life. Use it as a learning experience and an opportunity to grow stronger and more resilient.
  • Loneliness: Initially, you might feel isolated as you shed superficial relationships. Trust that this process will eventually lead to more meaningful connections.


Join us at Dream Dance Fitness and start your journey to living unapologetically. Our classes are designed to help you break free from the need for approval and discover the joy of being yourself. Embrace your uniqueness, celebrate your strengths, and let your true self shine on and off the dance floor.

This June, we’re offering exciting workshops:

  • June Intro to Pole 6-Week Series: Perfect for beginners, learn the basics of pole dancing and build your confidence. We only have 2 spots available on Sunday. Monday/Wednesday sold out!
  • Sensual Striptease 4-Week Series: Connect with your body and explore your sensual side in a supportive environment.

Visit our website or scroll down to learn more about our classes and how you can get started today. Unleash your inner dancer and live unapologetically with Dream Dance Fitness.